things didn’t work out n they turned messy fast. This means family friends etc. My (22M) girlfriend (25F), whom i have been dating for 3 years, has a best friend (26M). Alright, I (18F) and my boy best friend who we'll call "Jake" (19M) have been friends since childhood. My girlfriend (25F) and I (26M) have been together for four years. He's only known her as long as I have and in my opinion, they are both disrespectful of me and Chris. 47. Totally written by an insecure alpha male who demanded that his girlfriend hand over her phone and all passwords and was told to blow it out his ass, so he ran to AITA thinking that making up a fake ass porn writing angle would get him the sympathy he feels he's owed. You're not the asshole for expressing your concerns about your best friend's girlfriend. Based on what you've said, it's time to break up. NTA get rid of the “friend” she seems jealous and slightly obsessed over your fiancé. she didn't really give much attention to his attempts but they developed a good friendship. My girlfriend started crying about how much it all upsets her and after four years I was just kind of tired of it and told her that she needed to choose between me and the BFF. . AITAH for telling my girlfriend that the tattoo of her dad's face on her shoulder makes sex weird from some angles. I've never had a problem with Derek's girl best friend (let's call her Stacey), but she recently started calling Yesterday, a family friend was telling my family and my brothers girlfriend Mary (f25) how her son is having major medical issues which could ultimately take his life and how she and her husband were not dealing with it well at all, and my brothers girlfriend said, “I understand what you are going through, when Kennedy (her dog) needed I have to describe her daughter. ADMIN MOD. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 11 months. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. During our friendship I started dating this girl, for privacy's sake we'll call her just GF. Aita for telling my wife that I would choose my mom over the birth of our baby. Yep, it's me. The trip would be fully paid and Mike is my fiancé best friend since kindergarden. AITA for choosing my friendship over a promise. We've created a very strong bond throughout these years and did a lot of things and we just kinda let the relationship grow. In your case it sure seems like your gf doesn't want to let go of the ex and he's a total AH for getting in the middle of your relationship. When it was coming to an end, she pulled me aside to tell me that I should stop coming over. Before I came into the picture they were attached at the hip and then the BFF got jealous of how often my girlfriend and I were together. I'm getting incredibly touched out by my husband's relationship with Claire. ) action is telling my friend about her proposal. I have a bestfriend of 4 years but from the past months I am thinking she don't see me as such. You are asking her to choose between you and her kids. So, this is a throwaway account. I told her that Liam is not my best friend, my fiance is. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. She got upset with me and told me that she couldn't choose between us and it wasn't fair to ask her to even though the BFF is always starting drama. We've never had anything romantic, just a platonic friendship. And me and her ex were friends before him and her dated. YTA, big time. Boyfriend posts on AITA - Aug 29, 2021. You chose how to delegate your time. 18 votes, 18 comments. We used to hang out a bit more back in school but really this has always been a problem. When you marry you "forsake all others". upvotes · comments r/redditonwiki We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Me and my fiancé (let's call him Derek) have been engaged for two years. I love her so much. nothing wrong with that, she married you and not your family. I (24m) been friends with this girl, let’s call her “Sara” (26f), for a couple of years. Even with her present I wasn't allowed to talk to him. His girlfriend keeps texting mine and saying that I been making moves on her and I had intimacy with her when I never did. I (22f) have been friends with Danny (22m) since high school and he recently moved in with his current gf Lucy (22f). My husband and I moved right beside his best friend Chris and Chris's girlfriend "Claire" back in October, and they also just had a baby (4 months ago). And she brought up the girl best friend "trope". She told me she has a friend who was also looking and would be more than happy to set us up on a date. Advice Needed. Each one has a different function in his life (Ex: protector, ECT For thinking my bff is a pick me girl. We invited my maid of honor / his best man to the wedding (call him Mike, m29) and told them that they could bring there significant other also. 2. Last Friday we I went to their house again for his father's birthday. She is 24 (I think), has a kid that she lost custody of, got his initials tattooed on her neck (they've known each other for less than a year). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1. I get angry and tell my father “you need to knock her ass up when you can’t even be here for us”. NOT isolate a healthy friendship if it is indeed healthy. I’m not saying the reason because that’s personal. Asshole. You called your girlfriend, who you should be cherishing and showering with love and affection, a “fucking pig”. Reply reply. Yes, yes YTA. I’ve seen my wife wake me up and My Female best friend introduced me to her Male best friend and we dated for 4 years, were living together and planning our wedding with F as the maid of honor. My father gets angry and yells at me to go up to my room. My girlfriend (now ex) and I were together for about 3 months prior to this, so we understood each other’s point of view before this event took place. (Which in my opinion doesn't make sense because SHE broke MY trust. Wrong. AITA for telling my sister's fiancé what she did to her ex-boyfriend? Back when my (23M) sister, Crystal (26F), was 16, she got pregnant by her ex-boyfriend, Andrew. Down the line I started We invited my maid of honor / his best man to the wedding (call him Mike, m29) and told them that they could bring there significant other also. Your friends are being the dicks by banning her from your party; she isn't forcing you to choose anyone. My best friends bf had told them that they were never to see any friends or family without him coming along, and i tolerated it for 2 years before telling my friend i don't like their bf and refuse to hang out with him anymore. My friend Jessica is a very nice girl, and in a lot of ways is very similar to my GF. But honestly, ESH. I (25m) have a relationship with C (24F) for about 2,5 years. My girlfriend is now making me choose between her and my child with her, and John and I don't know what to do. Take this very seriously. It was a dark time for me, and her support was needed. I told my girlfriend a long time ago that we never had a sexual or romantic relationship and that our wedding was just a joke. She always craves male attention and often chooses our male friends over me whom she knows only for a year and a half. My wife has a friend, we can call her “Berta”. Rick is totally a jealous abusive asshole, literally only an abuser (or seriously mentally ill person) would be simultaneously jealous of OP for “having her first” like ten fucking years ago AND still feel entitled to using his place. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I thought they were happy together. AITA? For thinking my bff is a pick me girl. i called him out on it n a little while later he apologized, but me and Sara ADMIN MOD. We met in the end of elementary school and became friends about the time that middle school started. But ultimately it just isn’t Fiona’s fault or business, really. My girlfriend and her best friend have been inseparable since childhood, and while I understand the importance of friendship, their bond seemed to be overshadowing our relationship. She was hurting but in your mind, you had done enough for her and your friend deserved you more. I (25M) have a (28F) friend of mine try to put me on a date with one of her friends. Me and her hit it off and eventually she started confiding in me about their relationship (she does know I'm an ex). Recently, she had to confessed to me and my other friend that she was loosing feelings for J and she was super confused. " . Although he does have a doctorate degree, no one has ever called Just a couple months ago my dad went to jail. My best friend is a girl I met when I was younger. 2 years ago my best friend (we’ll call her Sara) had a talking stage with this guy (we can call him Tim). So all of this I heard from my other friend(18F) who went. So, to get started, I am 36m, and my wife is 33f. AITA for choosing my friends over my girlfriend? Not the A-hole. Over a month ago, me and roughly a dozen other friends made plans to have a movie night (it’s not actually a movie night but I don’t want to expose any identifying information) at our friend A guy usually is the one to catch feelings in a friendship like that, but if he did catch feelings that isn’t your problem to worry about. You can’t save anybody else from an abusive relationship, they have to do that themselves. SchoolSpiritsFan. She shares things with them rather so my (20m) roommate and best friend (19m), met my best friend (20f) through me, 2 years ago. She needs to see a doctor Oh shit, I didn’t even connect those dots. I then look at Nicole and tell her she is a disgusting piece of trash and to get out of our lives. I have dropped many friends because they disliked my best friend before, and I am extremely hurt because I thought there was some unspoken loyalty there. Oct 11, 2023 · AITA (Am I the Asshole) for putting her in such a tough position? Let me provide some context. You were trying to maintain your friendship and communicate openly about your feelings, which is important in any relationship. At a school football game that took place before our homecoming dance, I went to hang around with my friends while GF went to hang out with hers. They are really close since college and work at the same…. I told her I was sorry for her best friend and hope she is ok. She has a nice friend group, does not have trouble with bullies, and generally seems very happy. She still lives with her mother (50f), brother (19m) and sister (17F). My best friend was there for me throughout all of it, though she decided not to drop these individuals as this was between me and them, and she had no part in it. I (22F) have been best friends with Drew (23M) for almost 15 years. AITA for telling my fiancé to choose between me and his girl best friend. she said she felt bad for blocking him and unblocked him recently. English isn't my first languange so i am sorry for the mistakes in grammar and the sentences. I will check some of these comments, but not all. Posted by u/ExpressCrazy4864 - 1 vote and 4 comments My girlfriend thinks I'm an asshole because she says she and the dogs were a package deal, she says that foircing her to choose between her and her dogs is a violation of trust . Her mother/my girlfriend was crying because her daughter is not the popular athlete cheerleader homecoming queen that she was in school. She may be a friend to you too, but ultimately her loyalty lies with your ex first and foremost. 1. Having a rational heart-to-heart with your gf and letting her know how this behavior from him and her makes you feel (without sounding needy) will go a long way to clearing the air one way or another. She and Andrew decided to keep the pregnancy despite our parents' disapproval. It wouldn’t come out of nowhere. YTA - Its not your house, you’re not paying for any of it, so no you don’t get a say regardless of how long you’ve been there. Fiona is HER best friend. This is the time to tell a boy to be a fucking man. We get along pretty well a majority of the time. I (14M) told my girlfriend at the time (14F) I rather be with my friends than her . It felt like every time we made plans, her best friend would show up So my brother Jayden (16m) was with his (now ex) girlfriend Ruby (15f) for 2 whole years. 2am the next day, he calls and asks me to pick him up from her house. 14M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. She's the type of girl who hates any female friend of her AITA for telloing my GF to choose between me and her mother. Her reaction seems disproportionate given the situation. Guess who hasn't talked to his best friend in 2 months. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: hanging out with my boyfriend more than my best friend. • 2 yr. So for some context, my (18F) boyfriend (17M) has multiple personality disorder. I (22M) have been friends with my best friend "Luke" (22M) for 15 years, my girlfriend "Luna" (21F) and I have been together for 2 years now. AITA for asking my wife to ask her friend to leave? Not the A-hole. AITA for yelling at my best friend after he told me he wanted my girlfriend? Not the A-hole. Your ex for cheating, you for putting more blame on Fiona than her. She then started calling me names and I hung up on her and blocked her. Instead, a mature relationship considers why [insert random factor here] is bringing up insecurity. I can see how she was being manipulated by her sister. We had broken up 4 months ago and are starting to talk again. The partner needs to rededicate to the behaviors that make their partner feel secure. YTA and BTW so are your friends. They had a housewarming party on Friday and Lucy spent most of the night dancing with her own friends who are very like her (excitable extroverted e. I don’t want her to stop hanging out with her friend just cuz I said so but it doesn’t sit right with me. That said, there are a lot of red flags here with how your boyfriend doesn’t listen to you on this topic or put some boundaries down with this friend. My ex (33 M) and I (31 F) were together for 4 years. My girlfriend and her daughter moved in with me at the beginning of this year. We have been friends since like sophomore year, group of 4 guys. Award. ago. This story is a bit long and is quite the doozie, so buckle up for the wild ride. It consists of my really good friends and my girlfriend. That's great that you could read between the lines, except you're not taking into consideration that she has a friendship with this other guy in her mind there is no opening for a romantic relationship, so some of those actions she's not seeing as him flirting or being suggestive due to his place in her mind. A parent will always side with their kids. If your friend was that bad off you should’ve taken more severe action. Later she called me saying I'm a horrible friend for making her choose between the both of us. She left to live with Andrew's family after our parents kicked her out. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. A few of them invited their SOs and I’ve been dating my gf now for a long enough time that I don’t think it would be awkward to bring her along. She’s been there for me when I lost a family member. jrm1102. Just a week ago my girlfriend asked me who I love more, my sister or her. I kept my feelings about her to myself, but one day my brother and I were exchanging texts and I made a nasty joke that he laughed at. Liam is like a cousin. I (M44) have just told my wife (F42) of 10 years to choose between me and her best friend (M40). I bet you’re wondering why her mother would be crying if this was the case. Yep. We are expecting our first child soon. We had broken up 3 times prior…. YTA - you told her to take time off already, and now you want to ditch her. Old-Independence1862. All of this eventually made him and her break up I understood that my girlfriend wanted to see her best friend tonight and comfort her and I 100% supported that. I asked her how she was feeling, and when she told me, I yelled at her for it. "I am pissed again as I see this as choosing her friend's over my family again. : r/AITAH. Well recently my gf(let’s call her Lia) meet her friend (23F) on Instagram and they started talking. Also fyi, saying “you love me” is a typical response to someone playing around and telling them they hate them 🤨. But my word, 100 lbs is 6 months is NOT normal, even for someone existing off of McDonald’s. He has also lied and said my girlfriend cussed and threatened him. When he got with her, he had told her that he wasn't going to stop seeing people, and if she had an issue with it he would dump her. •. Apr 8, 2024 · "AITA For Telling My Girlfriend to Choose Me or her Best Friend?" Here's his original post: My girlfriend (25F) and I (26M) have been together for four years. Up until recently we've been really happy together and have never really fought. For context I (15m) have been with my girlfriend Emily (17f) a little over a year. edited with fake names to make it easier to understand ok context. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to… I was furious at her comments because she wasn’t just a “dead girl”. Especially now that their relationship is so serious. AITA for choosing my girl best friend over my girlfriend? Title makes me sound bad as is, I know, but hear me out. She knows I've been trying to get back out into the serious dating world after the dumpster fire of my last relationship 2 years ago. about a few months ago he told me had had developed feelings for her and began pursuing her. AITA for yelling at my ex-wife, Anna, after she called her newborn son her first child, completely discarding our daughter? upvotes · comments r/AITAH Work on yourself and your own standards because no one deserves to be left hanging desperate while the person they’re waiting on moves on with their life. My friend, let’s call him LH,was hanging with A warning though. You shouldn't have blown up at your girl like that. i personally dont think she will follow through with training the dogs so am i the asshole for telling her YOu have two important events: Her best friend is more important to your wife - your brother is more important to you. Info: one red flag I saw was that when they would go out she would tell him “act like my friend AITA for telling my girlfriend sex maybe isn't for her? Oh dear, she really needs to see a doctor as soon as possible. For context my whole relationship with her with her which lasted 8 months was her being toxic and I took it without telling her how I felt, she never even acted like my girlfriend always hit me and she didn’t even hold my hand in public. Sarah needs to go. There are almost always situations in which one is strongly tempted to cheat. A couple days ago, Luke and I were hanging out at my place, we were goofing around, playing . Before I came into the picture they were attached at the hip and then the BFF got jealous of how often my NTA and as an older person who is gay man I will tell you that you deserve better my ex boyfriend behaved liked this often to the point I felt I was on egg shells you are young and don’t deserve to be treated like that especially from someone who says they love you a few things she said had me raise an eyebrow one of the disturbing things that stood out is the comment you are my girlfriend The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Last Week Tonight with John Oliver While we're sitting in the park he starts to tell me about his girlfriend that he'd been dating for about 2 months, which came completely out of left field as he had never mentioned her up until that point. AITA for going off on my friend for always choosing his gf over me. this caused me to blow up at her and now where not talking . My parents are divorced, my sister is the only family I see everyday. So my best friend Henry (22M) has been dating this girl Betty (21F) for about 2 years now, but our friend group has known each other since we were all 16/17, and we've been through a lot together so I'd say we have a pretty good bond even if just through shared experiences. You choosing the people giving the ultimatum and not the person who isn't (and choosing to hurt her feelingssiding with them) makes you TA. Help keep the sub engaging! YTA- you literally picked your friend over your girlfriend and showered her where she lined up in your priorities. I was even more surprised when I learned her name, we'll call her E(18F), she was one of my old friends. g) and dragging Danny away from his conversations with us (his friends A) after our first night, I heard her mother tell one of the housekeepers to clean the bedroom my girlfriend and I were staying in; I told her mother everything was in order and that I already made our bed before leaving; her mother then told me (in the presence of the housekeeper) that I shouldn’t bother because that’s her (the housekeeper My boyfriend (27M) and I (22F) have been dating for about 3 years and I haven’t inquired too much about any of his female friends. "My girlfriend, who I know has a hard time seeing happy families, seemed sad while hanging out with my best friend (who I like more) and her happy family. ) And when her and her boyfriend were dating(her now ex) she wouldn't let me talk to him, wouldn't let me text him. Wishing you the best! 1. Your girlfriend has the most toxic behavior which BTW that’s not activism and you don’t get people to do what you want by bullying them and treating them poorly that’s actually just toxic. Mikes girlfriend (let’s call her Courtney, f28) and him are together for 3 years. In the future, if you're living with someone that's not your spouse, you should have a lease in place. Drew started dating Maddy (F21) 2 years ago (online they met in person 6 months ago and moved in together 3 months ago) and they are moving very fast. Mauve you and your gf can work this out but you def need more mature friends. And I mean that in the genuine sense of “seek all the professional help you NEED, not the help you WANT, take after yourself, take control of YOUR life, don’t expect others to instruct YOUR life, don’t expect everyone to cater to your will and emotions as everyone has their OWN lives and relationships they don’t want to destroy, learn I was not invited to the party as the girl hosting it wasn’t allowed to invite me because of her boyfriend. However, we just had an incident where he was lying about having porn on his phone and I did end up checking his phone and noticed he talks to a girl, we’ll call her Anna (25F), on Snapchat. My girlfriend recently got her doctorate. Since then, she has been greeting my father as “Doctor” [lastname]. YTA. My wife has been friends with Berta for years and through rougher circumstances. He's typically a kind and reasonable person - that was until he met "Anna" (18F). I made the mistake of waiting. It is how she would respond. neither of them were 100% perfect, but he sent her a really nasty paragraph body shaming her. Reply. He had I think 6, but two main ones. And, like you said, she tried to get your ex to come clean. So my gf gets along with all my friends very well excluding one. 2) it may make me an asshole because it is traditionally frowned upon and most people encourage you to hang out with friends more. My girlfriend of 4 years does not believe it my friend knows and told my girlfriend it’s not true but calls me the ass hole for asking him to pick me or his girlfriend. AITA for telling my girlfriend not to call my dad “doctor”? Not the A-hole. Later, my grandpa unexpectedly came over to pick me up. JustAnotherOlive. I still live with my parents and brother. NTA. We share a yard. She doesn’t come by to the house like she used to well I was wondering why and Jayden said she was “busy”. If I was her, I’d take awhile to reevaluate how this relationship makes me feel. You did what you could for your friend by offering her a safe place, acknowledging what she’s going through (even if she can’t seem to do that herself at this point), and letting her know that you care. ) makes me the asshole because it ruins a momentous occasion. I’m not sure what will happen moving forward but just wanted to give an update as people have been asking and to let you guys know that things between my girlfriend and I have now been sorted. AITA for telling my boy best friend that he and his girlfriend are awful people? Not the A-hole. Berta likes to show up unannounced, often in an emergency, and late at night. She was my best friend and like a sister to me, we grew up and did everything together. I thought "Well, that's not going to go over well. And honestly, you guys have been dating for two years so you have had ample time to discuss this. AITA for telling my gf to choose between me and her friend? Hello, I (16f) and my gf (17f) have been dating for 9 months and we don’t fight a lot, and neither one of us is way “overprotective”. My son and her have been getting along better than I could’ve hoped for but lately he’s been acting dismissive towards her and her daughter. Me and my best friend who ill call J, are really close we’ve been friends for as long as i can remember, his girlfriend is one of my very good friends and i love her to the death, ill call her S. In December, I met his new girlfriend, and she's absolutely amazing. My girlfriend has since again apologised to me for everything and I have accepted her apology. This party was over a month ago and since then i saw Ally messaging Jarred again. Also this attitude of do what I want think the way I want or I’ll stone wall you and be mean to you. No matter what if his gf is free, he will be ESH. He spends one week with me and one with my ex. " Sure enough, before too long they broke up. She's been best friends with her friend (also 25F) since middle school. My (m21) friend (m20) has a gf that he has had since he was in like 5th grade. Some backstory: I(23M) broke up with my then girlfriend (22F) of 2 years around a year ago due to her confessing she didn’t love me anymore, our relationship was more like me always spoiling her (like who wouldn’t spoil their SO) so lets say she was used to being spoiled by me for a long time (this matters for the story). My mother, who is 70, was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and has been AITA Ahole for telling my boyfriend to choose between me and my friend? Asshole. M started acting strange and disappearing at odd times and when I cried on F's shoulder about it, she berated me how I was a "bridezilla" for wanting to know where he went for hours Vote. I’m annoyed that so many people are on that thread going “yep - it’s all fast food’s fault”. NTA - Sarah is not your friend - if she is this openly hostile and jealous to your face - What is she doing / saying behind your back. Last week, we found out that we’re going to have a child together. So each of you do theirs. EssayPersonal5624. Your reasoning for her friend not moving in makes you sound like a bit of a wad. TL;DR: AITA for not wanting to choose or having a hard time choosing between them? YTA, you specifically asked her to take the time off to spend with you, just to ditch her for a bunch of strangers, unless you what to spend your birthday single, the choice is an obvious one. I’m obviously very happy for her and proud of her. One of my sisters didn't like her BF's adult daughter, telling him she took advantage of him, he gave her too much $$ etc. So, me (16F) and my best friend (16F) have known each other for about 7 years now. " And she dumped him - go Sara! Yeah I asked my girlfriend to consider how it would look if my best friend was knowingly engaging in cheating / helping a woman cheat. My girlfriend still wasn’t pleased with me. My girlfriend and I actually have been arguing about him. Ultimatums do not work and it is a dick move to make someone choose between you or their friend or to try to pressure someone into valuing you. sy fz yd nm zy nt ho yq iq ta